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Girls Just Want To Have Fun... And Why The Hell Not!

What’s so special about a “ Girls' Night Out?” Well, actually nothing when you compare it to a “girls” week away . There is something that happens when a group of women share an extended amount of time together under a single roof (or for this matter, in a 5 bedroom condominium). When you see someone in their “morning” best, without make-up, before their first cup of coffee, an instant bond occurs, mainly because they have seen you in the same fashion. There’s a code of honor amongst us girls – it’s no different than “What happens in Vegas…” Every year we have the opportunity to spend 4-5 days of unscheduled existence with 8-10 other women. We share rooms, and sometimes, even beds. We share bathrooms, clothes, and even the food on our plates. Our one obvious commonality continues to be love of tennis . With very few exceptions, we all play tennis together and are bonded as a team. I might add, a competitive team , but certainly not as cohesive until we became bonded as ' g...

"TIME-OUT", Does it Really Work?

Next Chapter continued..... Who honestly thinks that “ TIME OUT ” is a good method of punishment? OK, maybe “ punishment ” is not the appropriate word – how’s, “ disciplinary tool .” Whatever. The real issue is whether it works for you --- let me rephrase that - does it work in the way it was designed to be used? I owed it to myself to do a little research on this topic in an effort to better understand the principles behind this tool and perhaps even recognize where we went wrong. So, as with everything else, I Googled it. The consensus was clear – TIME-OUT is said to be a “mild ” form of punishment, the purpose of which is to isolate or separate the child for a short period of time in order to allow the child to calm down…. I get it that TIME-OUT is suppose to eliminate yelling and screaming ( I think on the part of the parent, but doubtful ). I get it that it’s a far less aversive tool than physical punishment ( yeah, yeah, yeah, but is it as effective?), and I get i...